Welcome 2021!
It’s January 2021, and it couldn’t arrive at a better time.
It’s a fresh start, and this means New Year’s Resolutions.
The trick is…how long do your resolutions last?
Buyers Remorse
I think the biggest winners in the Resolution Lotto are the fitness gyms. How many times have you signed up for a gym membership, totally intending to get buff and skinny, but by February, you’ve got buyer’s remorse.
It doesn’t have to be this way. How do we keep falling for the “same- old same- old” every year?
I’ll tell you how. We know what we want, but not how to get there. This is why most resolutions fail. In fact, I believe there are 5 reasons why your New Year’s Resolutions fail.
Why Your Resolutions Fail
#1. It’s not your resolution. It’s someone else’s resolution for you. In other words, you’re trying to make someone else happy. Only, guess what? It doesn’t work. It’s a sure- fire road to self- sabotage. It’s a “should” instead of a passionate “want”. My advice: Dump this resolution and find your own.
#2. It’s not specific enough. Want to lose weight? Too vague. How much weight do you want to lose? Want to make better grades? Exactly what grade do you want to make? In what subject? You get the idea. Whoever said, “the devil’s in the details” was a genius. Vagueness gets you nowhere. It’s like being stuck in quicksand. Figure out exactly what you want to change…exactly!
#3. It’s a wish without a plan. You want to lose weight, but you lack a plan. What are you going to do differently? What steps are you going to take? When? You want to raise your grade-point, but your lack of a plan has you stuck in the wish position. You need weekly action steps in writing. Grab your pen and paper. Get this in writing! The pen truly is mightier than the sword!
#4. You’re a perfectionist. Your favorite word is “someday”. Perfectionists never feel quite ready for the task at hand. Hence, they’re procrastinators. They have good intentions, but that’s about as far as it goes. They’re stuck in neutral. If this sounds like you, I offer two words…first draft. You have to be willing to do it imperfectly. If not, you’ll never get started. It’s called “priming the pump”.
#5. You’re the Lone Ranger. You’re not accountable to anyone but yourself. You’re like the Lonely Maytag Repair Man. As humans, we’re social creatures. We need each other. We need both encouragement and accountability to reach the finish line. Even if you’re the ultimate self-starter, it’s simply more fun to let someone know what you’re accomplishing along the way. Whether it’s a friend, a parent, or a Life Coach, don’t go it alone.
If you have a goal you’d like to accomplish, or a resolution you’d like to keep, as a Certified Life Coach, my goal is to help you reach your goal.
Bottom line…no more buyer’s remorse.
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